An overview of Taken In Hand
Taken In Hand relationships are wholehearted sexually-exclusive marriages in which the husband wears the trousers and is firmly in charge (to his wife's delight!)—and he always puts his wife and their relationship first. Putting her and the relationship first is the key to creating a marriage in which the man is in control in a good, healthy and sustainable way. Taken In Hand wives tend not to claim to be submissive (though their husbands may well consider them to be so) but they do respect, honour and appreciate their husbands and strive to please them.
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What kind of relationship is this?
- It is wholehearted, fully committed, focused, faithfully sexually-exclusive and monogamous
- The man has the balance of power and control
- The man's control is thoroughly consensual and welcome
- The control is for the benefit of both individuals and for the relationship, as opposed to being abusive or purely self-serving
- It is dynamic and evolving, not a static or stereotypical relationship
- It is deeply connected and engaged and intimate
- The relationship empowers and nurtures the autonomy of both individuals, as opposed to diminishing the woman.
- It is freely chosen and wanted on an on-going basis, or it is not a Taken In Hand relationship.
What are the people like?
- Taken In Hand individuals are just that: individuals; they are not stereotypical
- The men—kind and caring, not self-serving narcissists, but firm too
- The women—strong and competent, not weak or wimpy doormat types, and not domineering misandrists either
- You and me—ordinary people—your neighbour, your sister, the chap you work with, your best friend
- The husband is more likely to think of himself as being in charge, wearing the pants, or as being a bit bossy, than to call himself “dominant”
- The wife is more likely to think of herself as just a normal fallible human being who loves her wonderful take-charge husband, than to call herself “submissive”
How does it feel?
- Taken In Hand feels liberating
- Taken In Hand feels natural and right
- A deep feeling of peacefulness
- Amazing communication
- Problems seem easier to solve
- Improved/intense sexual connection
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Have you seen the following articles?
The Taming of the Shrew
Entitled to all of her husband
Woman whisperer
On being the servant-leader in my relationship
Taken In Hand means different things to different people
Can you be Taken In Hand if you're not submissive?
The subjection of women
Stereotypes
Handle with care... and honor and fidelity
The sexuality of ‘non-sexual’ dominance
Mon, 19/09/2005 - 07:08
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#1 A very good overview
Thanks for your overview, I found it a very good résumé of the different types of relationships we have heard about here.
I felt specially touched by:
The man has the balance of power and control
The man's control is consensual and welcome
The women – strong and competent, not weak or wimpy doormat types
I definitely agree with those three and would not add anything else.
But I would also say, as the site owner has said, that how much control he gets and she gives is what differenciates the different relationships we have heard about. What may work for you, could not do it for me and vice versa.