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RecognitionHikitty's account of her first meeting with her take-charge husband. Be patient!Nartie's honest and human piece is not to be missed. Taken in Hand inspired hindsightAzure on finding clarity. A readers' forum post by azure on 2010 Feb 2 - 22:44 | add new comment | read article | permanent link
Embracing each other's darkest secretsDon't miss this fascinating and beautifully written article. After nearly 18 years of marriage, Melman and his wife are experimenting with a Taken in Hand relationship. Natural authority Is all you needMisterF describes his Taken In Hand relationship in terms of natural authority. A readers' forum post by MisterF on 2010 Jan 13 - 18:04 | 12 comments | read article | permanent link
What a loving but strong husband can do for his marriageA husband's account of discovering the joys of the servant-leader role in his marriage. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2010 Jan 8 - 05:53 | 4 comments | read article | permanent link
The man needs to be the pursuerSonja had some good advice for women (and men!) seeking a Taken In Hand relationship. Loving the missionary position may be your first clueElly says that loving the missionary position and not feeling demeaned by it was her first inkling that she might enjoy this kind of relationship. Two years and countingHow one man brought his initially-reluctant wife happily to a heavenly Taken In Hand relationship. Man seeks advice from men about being a manManhood, marriage, control and love: what's the deal? A readers' forum post by american man type thing on 2009 Dec 5 - 09:28 | 10 comments | read article | permanent link
Why do you men desire to take your wife in hand?A new reader asks why the idea of administering so-called non-erotic physical punishment is erotic to some men? A readers' forum post by littlebit on 2009 Dec 2 - 02:21 | 11 comments | read article | permanent link
Is it still Taken In Hand if the woman doesn't crave his control?If you are a woman whose reason for being under your husband's control is not that you crave it, but that your husband does crave it, and it feels good to fulfil your husband's heart's desire, is that still a Taken In Hand relationship? A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2009 Nov 22 - 21:41 | 4 comments | read article | permanent link
Taken In Hand works best when it is organicNoone on rules. Why do some rules work but not others?Louise draws a helpful distinction between formal lists of rules and enforcement measures instigated by the wife (which tend not to work well in many Taken In Hand marriages) and rules that the husband naturally makes over time as issues arise. How long does it take to adjust to Taken In Hand?Mia has some excellent suggestions for those starting out. A good use of forceMarie M on how being taken stopped her feeling bad and reconnected her and her husband in a powerfully positive way. Learning from the British army ethosAbdiel has some fantastic advice for husbands and those men contemplating marriage. A man who is in control - of himselfPericles on what makes Taken In Hand work for her. Taken In Hand for the fatally flawedIn this touching article, Louise points out that you do not need to be a paragon of all known virtues for Taken In Hand to work for you. In part, Taken In Hand is, indeed, a way of positively solving problems created by our many flaws. What Taken In Hand requires of you as a husbandNoone points out that Taken In Hand is deceptively simple. Advice for husbands beginning to take charge in their marriageEzekiel has some fabulous advice for husbands in Taken In Hand marriages. Taken In Hand as opposed to completely docileThe Taken In Hand relationship is one in which, to the delight of both spouses, the husband actively controls (takes in hand) his wife, who may be a bit of a handful (as opposed to submissive/docile). How to avoid making your life with your wife a living hellNoone urges men not to ignore the clues that a woman might want to be firmly controlled by her loving husband. What if he is horrified by the idea?Most men, including even the most take-charge, react badly when they first hear about the idea of Taken In Hand. The deeply consensual nature of the Taken In Hand relationship is not immediately obvious, and Taken In Hand appears so antithetical to everything good people believe in. The good news is that in many cases the relationship happily evolves into a Taken In Hand one anyway, despite the man's initial horror at the idea of being actually in control in the relationship. This article is a charming account of one such case. Can you protect her, cherish her and handle her?Noone points out that Taken In Hand inclined women want men to win. Choice Theory saved my marriageIf you know more about Choice Theory than Taken In Hand, you might think that the two are incompatible, but in fact they are very compatible, as Shelly41 indicates. If you want your wife to give you respect, give her loveWarner on Emerson Eggerich's book. A readers' forum post by Warner on 2008 Nov 22 - 01:11 | 10 comments | read article | permanent link
How life's changed since finding Taken In HandOne reader's amazing journey to what sounds like a wonderful Taken In Hand marriage. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Nov 21 - 15:15 | 2 comments | read article | permanent link
Only been a week...How soon did you notice changes when you and your spouse found Taken In Hand? A readers' forum post by Loria Amnekia on 2008 Oct 30 - 06:41 | 8 comments | read article | permanent link
How can a man embrace his vulnerability in a Taken In Hand relationship?This reader wants to know how the wife in a Taken In Hand relationship shares the responsibility for the relationship. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Oct 15 - 12:52 | 7 comments | read article | permanent link
From exhausted single mother to happy Taken In Hand wifeOne of the benefits of Taken In Hand is that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. A readers' forum post by a Taken In Hand reader on 2008 Oct 5 - 05:44 | 4 comments | read article | permanent link
Progress through the years...?How has your relationship changed since you first found Taken In Hand? A readers' forum post by pericles on 2008 Sep 16 - 06:16 | 10 comments | read article | permanent link
Fierce womenA powerful piece by Hane. Is discipline a necessary component of a Taken In Hand relationship?Christelle seems to be under the misapprehension that discipline is a necessary component of a Taken In Hand relationship. Some advice for men seeking a womanLibby says don't give up. Forget 'ideal' - look for the realInstead of being with someone with whom you have to act a part, find someone who loves and accepts the real you. Is it ever OK to FORCE your wife to do something?What if a wife really really doesn't want to do something her husband tells her to do? Is forcing her to do it OK in a Taken In Hand context? DeeMarie examines this important issue. An unexpected benefit of our Taken In Hand relationshipRoger Gibson on how his Taken In Hand marriage has helped him in areas of life other than just his relationship with his wife. Freedom in letting goLetting go can be freeing – but sometimes you can end up with a broken coccyx. My treasureDreamwalker with a delectable post on the wife as property idea. |